How to Eliminate Fear – with Bob Proctor

By John Lee of YourBestYouEver.net

IF there’s one man who’s eminently qualified to speak about success, the principles behind achievement and the kind of emotions that hold us back, it’s Bob Proctor.

We all know him well as a star of the hit movie, ‘The Secret’, the natural successor to his early mentor Earl Nightingale and as co-founder of the Proctor Gallagher Institute.

Author and speaker, Bob Proctor

But like anyone who’s achieved any level of success, Bob has faced his fair share of challenges, setbacks and struggles – not least with unhelpful emotions.

In this short video, he talks about fear, how he came to really understand its nature and effects, and how to handle it, during a particularly turbulent airplane flight.

With characteristic wisdom, he outlines the simple yet potentially paralyzing cause of fear. And he explains how to eliminate fear, however it may manifest in your life.

Well worth a look. Just click on the following link to be taken to the original recording: http://tiny.cc/njebxx

How Do You Choose? Connecting To Your Core For Inspired Decision Making

By Dr Kate Siner

ON my radio show last week, a woman called in and asked "How can I know what is the right way to move forward?"

Which argument from her mind can she trust when she can make so many different arguments to go in one direction or another?

Is your decision making Inspired?

This is such a good question! Our minds can confuse us no end. So, how can we find our way out of this confusion into clarity about how to move forward?

We need to learn to live from our core.

One way to define the core (a term that comes from Core Energetics) is that it is the deepest part of ourselves that we have access to.

In Core Energetics, they teach that there are three aspects of the self - 'the mask', 'lower self' and 'core self'.

The mask is our persona. The face we put on for the world so that we can get along.

Our lower self is the part of us that runs on animal instinct. This is ‘fight, flight or freeze’. It is about survival in a primal sense.

Our core self, on the other hand, is best understood as transcendent love, as our deepest truth and highest human ideals.

When you are more connected to your core, your path forward seems clearer, you feel happier and more at peace, and you are able to have a more positive impact.

Think about it this way...

Would you rather make your decision from a place where you are doing what you think you should or have to do, where you are angry or fearful?

Or where you are in contact with the highest truest part of yourself?

That kind of breaks it down, right?

So, let’s look at some ways that you can connect in with the core of who you are:

Challenge your mask: Most of the time we walk around in the superficial part of our selves - the mask. In fact, many people don't even know that is where they are living from.

You can challenge you mask by asking if what you are thinking or feeling is actually true or if it might be able to be viewed from a different perspective.

The work of Byron Katie does a wonderful job of challenging the mask and reconnecting people with a deeper part of themselves.

Do things you love: It is a very simple fact that if you do more things you love, you feel happier, more fulfilled and more at peace.

The trick is to know if you REALLY love what you are doing or if you have just adopted it because it is socially acceptable. So, pay attention.

Psychologist Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi talks about this in his book Flow.

This book states that when we are doing things we truly love we experience things like time disappearing because we are so engrossed in what we are doing.

Get inspired: From a beautiful painting to a sublime piece of music, we connect with our core when we are inspired.

This effortless way of returning to our core can be used frequently through our days and weeks to nurture this connection.

Know your values: When we are in integrity with ourselves, we are more connected to the core of who we are.

One of the things that I teach in my programs is that there are no methods or rules that guarantee a person fulfillment and success.

Because each one of us needs to create a life and/or business that is in alignment with who we are at a deep level. And our values help us do this.

Return to love: The most challenging and most profoundly life-changing strategy for connecting with your core is simply returning to love when you have left it behind.

This requires that you are experienced enough with feeling deep love and that you are aware enough to switch gears at will.

This is also a central teaching in my work. I believe that as people learn to do this their life becomes infinitely better.

Speaker, author and mentor Dr. Kate Siner has been helping people connect to their core and live inspired lives for over 15 years.

Join Kate on her weekly radio show Real Answers, Thursdays at 9am PST to get answers to your most important questions on how to live a fulfilled and joy-filled life.

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Why Your Limitations Really Hold You Back

By Dr Jaime Kulaga

SOMETIMES, as life passes us by, we reflect on where we are and think about how we wish things were different. It is not only life that we wish was different, but our self too.

Maybe there are certain physical or mental aspects about you that hold you back. Some people have lost limbs (physical) where others battle Bi-Polar disorder, low self-esteem, or ADHD (mental). 

Free yourself from your limitations

But dwelling on all your limitations will prove to the world and yourself, that they are in fact limitations.

You will quickly find yourself in a very negative cycle. In fact, this negative cycle of thought not only reduces your self-confidence, but also the confidence that other people have in you.

Take a moment to think about being in a job interview. Would you sit there and spend your 45 minutes of interview time letting the interviewer know all of your limitations?

Why not? Answer this yourself.

If your answer was something along the lines of, "Because they wouldn't give me the job," then you get why you can't focus on your limitations when going about your day-to-day life.

Forty five minutes of dwelling on your limitations could really hinder you from having the life you wished for.

On another note, some people dwell on their limitations and share them with the world because they don't want others to hold them so accountable or don't want others to expect too much from them in case they can't come through.

This lack of confidence is hindering a life of happiness. Instead of people expecting a lot from them, people pity them.

And, while being pitied here and there might feel good, being pitied all the time just confirms to our mind that even others agree that our limitations hold us back.

As we focus on what we don't have the ability to do, we unconsciously create a self-fulfilling prophecy regarding how our limitations deter us from moving forward.

Consequently we don't live the life we wish we had. The reality is there are millions of people with mental and physical illnesses or pains living every day as if it were their dream.

They are achieving goals and climbing mountains. Instead of dwelling on your limitations, you must accept them and create a "work around".

Just as you find ways to work around other barriers that rise up in life, you must create one for what you perceive are your limitations, too.

This week's goal: Begin switching focus on what you do have to work with in life as opposed to what you don't have.

And begin your "work around" for your limitation in order to live the life you wish for.

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Dr. Jaime Kulaga is a Licensed Mental Health Counselor and Motivational Speaker.

She is the author of "The SuperWoman's Guide to Super Fulfillment: Step-by-Step Strategies to Create Work-Life Balance."

She is the inspirational founder of the nationally known SuperWoman Workshops. Dr. Kulaga has been featured internationally for her expertise in Work-Life Balance. http://www.mindfulrehab.com

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The key to success? Grit – featuring Angela Lee Duckworth

By John Lee of YourBestYouEver.net

ASK any group of people what it takes to ‘be a success’ and they’ll doubtless come up with a whole host of ideas and perspectives.

Talent, intelligence, hard work, the right kind of image, a helping hand, the right contacts, a bit of luck. These and others will probably make it to the list.

Grit: ‘Passion and perseverance for very long-term goals’

But there’s one quality that takes precedence over all of these according to former management consultant, Angela Lee Duckworth, as she explains in the TED video you can access below.

It is, of course, ‘Grit’, which Angela defines as ‘passion and perseverance for very long-term goals’.

In the recording, she reveals how teaching seventh-grade math led to her fascination with this highly intangible quality and set her on a path of wide-ranging research and discovery.

She also mentions a concept called ‘growth mindset’, which was developed by Dr Carol Dweck at Stanford University.

By helping youngsters understand how the brain changes and grows in response to challenge, this has encouraged perseverance in the face of failure - a clear characteristic of grit.

To see the presentation by Angela Lee Duckworth, click here: http://tiny.cc/ALDuckworth

If you would like to a view presentation on growth mindset by Carol Dweck, here’s the link: http://tiny.cc/DrDweck