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Saturday 29 March 2014

It's Okay, And Even Necessary, For Some Of Them To Hate You

Guest post by Douglas R Kruger

IMAGINE your life as a YouTube video. You work hard on the content, edit and tinker till it's attractive and presentable, then upload the results for all to see. Your URL goes live and your video becomes accessible to the public.

Quite soon, something startling happens. Among the hundreds of 'likes' you've accrued, you discover that twenty or so mean-spirited individuals have hit 'dislike'. They actually went to the time and trouble to let you know that they disapproved of you.

You're staggered. It's like they looked at you, a whole human being, and voted 'No'.

How do you react?

For most people, social disapproval is not just uncomfortable; it's actually a worst-case scenario. There's a reason that Public Speaking is regularly cited as the world's number one fear.

And it has nothing to do with the mechanics of speaking itself; it is simply that the act of standing before a group and expressing yourself is the quintessential forum for evaluation and judgement by strangers.

We fear disapproval.

Or at least, we do when we are starting out.

Serious career-builders quickly ascertain that this fear is completely counterproductive. Of course someone out there is going to disapprove of you.

It will happen whether you sit safely in your cubicle and never do anything ("Such a wall-flower! No spine!"), or you become the office superstar and revolutionize the industry ("Who does this glory-hound think she is?!").

Criticism is unavoidable. Disapproval is numerically inescapable. But bowing to the perceived pressure, well, that's your choice. That decision is under your control.

What happens depending on the choice you make? For starters, whichever path you choose becomes amplified over time.

The more you bow to the negative feedback of others, the more you train yourself to be the kind of person who bows to the negative feedback of others.

It's a form of self-governance that grows ever stricter and more repressive.

Conversely, the more you dismiss criticism in a good-humored way, knowing that it's inevitable and not taking it too seriously, the more you train yourself to be the kind of person who can act independently, get her own results, and lump the dislikes.

So, if you wrestle with the fear of others' opinions, let's begin with an aphorism that high-stakes players take to heart: 'Tigers do not lose sleep over the opinion of sheep'.

You need the leeway to act. You will have to ruffle a few feathers if you are to become anything. Paralysis by over-care will not serve you. A couple of 'dislikes' on your upload are normal, natural and necessary.

So, imagine if you made mental accommodation for them. Imagine if you were to give yourself permission to fail from time to time. More revolutionary still, imagine if you gave others permission to disapprove of you.

They are entitled to their thoughts, and you need the space and the freedom to act and to try. Both are permissible.

As you grow beyond employee and into the ranks of leadership - or better still, thought-leadership - you will need to increasingly permit yourself the freedom and leeway to be disliked.

Certainly, it's wonderful when people give themselves over to you heart and soul. But it's also almost mythically rare.

Most industry legends are hated every bit as much as they are loved; they will have armies of followers, and mobs who would love nothing more than to burn them at the stake.

Most don't care. They boldly go about their work. They trust their inner voice. They believe in themselves. They allow themselves the space to be phenomenal, and occasionally, to be hated.

So go ahead. Collect a 'dislike' or two. You may be delighted to discover that it makes absolutely no difference. And you might just learn to love your new-found freedom to be.

Douglas Kruger is a professional speaker and author who encourages people to think. He speaks on Expert Positioning and the misunderstood link between work and wealth.

He is a 5x winner of the SA Championships for Public Speaking and the author of three books. See him in action or read more of his articles at http://www.douglaskruger.co.za. Email him at kruger@compute.co.za.

Follow him on LinkedIn or Twitter: @douglaskruger. - See more at: http://www.douglaskruger.co.za

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Wednesday 26 March 2014

Why And How You Should Practice Mental Fitness

Guest post by Alex Petryck


THE importance of physical fitness is all over the media, and there is a good reason for that fuss. When you keep your body healthy, you will prevent many serious health conditions and preserve your well-being for longer. However, the aspect of health that’s not getting enough attention is mental fitness. Who needs a healthy, flexible and lean body without a healthy and flexible mind?
How's YOUR Mental Fitness?

Before going on with the importance of mental fitness, let’s explain what it is – it’s the work you invest into your psychological well-being and your ability to find joy in each moment of life. There are three ways to go – keeping up with stress and anxiety, becoming dull and unable to find interest in anything, or maintaining your mind sharp and active for as long as possible. It’s your choice and you are making it every day.
Why should you practice mental fitness?
You start and end each day with hygiene activities, don’t you? You wash your hands, brush your teeth and take a shower every day. Are you doing something for your mental hygiene? You should! Your mind is also full of impurities that require cleansing: stressful thoughts, worries, envy, lack of will, dullness, doubt, restlessness… the list goes on and on. Maintaining a culture of mind means that you need to cultivate positive values, such as consciousness, good will, agility, self-confidence, joy, and happiness.
Stress is an inseparable part of modern life, but you can make a real difference in the way you deal with it. Instead of cultivating a restless mind, why don’t you work on maintaining a peaceful state of an undisturbed mind? Today it’s “cool” to be unsatisfied, disgruntled and resentful. Is that really the way you want to spend your life? Mental fitness does not mean being inactive. It simply means to cultivate positive values and keep your mind active towards something that will make you happy.
Everyone is interested in healthy aging, but most people limit their efforts to maintaining their physical strength. Physical fitness is certainly important, but mental fitness is the only way to prevent the signs of mental aging.
How to practice mental fitness
Now that you know about the importance of mental purity, it’s time to learn how to achieve it. What exactly can you do to keep yourself mentally fit?
  1. The best way to keep your mind focused, steady, and undisturbed is meditation. It takes time and practice to achieve real meditation, but that shouldn’t prevent you from being persistent with it. Start with simple concentration on your breathing for 10 minutes a day, and extend the amount of time gradually – you will notice how your mind is becoming steadier by the day. Meditation doesn’t come easily, and you should definitely seek for proper guidance from a certified instructor.
  2. Read a lot! Don’t limit your daily reading to random internet articles that don’t teach you anything new. Everything you read should contribute towards your mental fitness, so forget about the Kardashians and start looking for valuable reading to spend your time with. It’s important to read widely and exercise your brain in different areas. The best way to keep your mind healthy is to learn something new every day, but don’t limit yourself to superficial knowledge.
  3. Challenge yourself intellectually. Learn a new language, read War and Peace, solve some math problems from time to time… do anything that would challenge your intellect and test your memory.
  4. Engage in meaningful conversations. If your friendships and family relationships have fallen into a routine, you have to do something about it because those relations are important for your mental health. Talk to the people you love about a wide range of topics that aren’t limited to “how was your day?” Your social life can literally save your mental health in bad times.
  5. Have a hobby. Find something you love and devote time to it. You cannot keep your mind healthy if you don’t engage in something that interests you.
  6. Turn off the TV and spend a few days away from the computer. TV shows and Internet distractions are making you dull and inactive. Spend some time away from them and you will immediately notice how your brain is becoming sharper.
  7. Pay attention! This is associated to meditation – you should extend your consciousness throughout the entire day. Are you forgetting whether you turned off the iron or not, or where you put the keys? The only way to boost your memory is to pay attention to everything you do. Your thoughts should always be here and now.
Conclusion
Why do you need mental fitness? – Because I cannot imagine a happy man or woman who doesn’t have a balanced mental activity. You cannot be peaceful if you can’t take control over the restlessness of your mind. Everything you do and feel comes from the way you handle your thoughts. If you think well, you will speak and act well, and you will feel well about the life that surrounds you.
Alex Petryck is a business administration student and freelance journalist. He likes traveling, cryptography and also writes for best essays writing company.
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Sunday 23 March 2014

'The Friendship Vacuum'

Guest post by  Becca Hanson, VP of Administration at the Proctor Gallagher Institute

Attracting Friendships that Serve You and Last a Lifetime!

WHAT you’re about to read is a love story... well, not so much a love story as a love letter - A Soul Sister story and one of the greatest lessons of my life, to date.

There was a 5-year period in my twenties (up until about 2 years ago) where I found myself completely friendless.

Sure I had my family, my boyfriend, his family and my co-workers but I didn’t have a BFF/female/friendship connection. It was a lonely time in my life.
How and why did I find myself in this situation? Well, believe it or not, it was by choice.

I once read that if you’re the most successful, ambitious and driven of all your friends, you better find new friends.

And in order to attract those new friends, you must first make room in your life to receive them – you must create the vacuum.

At first that sounded just a tad harsh... I mean, I loved my friends, they’d been in my life for years!

We’d been through all kinds of things together: dates, breakups, new careers and countless stupid decisions that often came back to bite us. 

Some never did fool me - I knew they were only a part of my life out of convenience. But there were a handful that I felt I had developed true, meaningful friendships with.

The idea that I might one day actually choose to move on from these friendships seemed completely improbable and highly unlikely.

But that is exactly what happened.

In 2007, I found myself longing for something more. I was working as a Nanny and, while I loved my job, I felt deep in my soul that something was missing. I was meant for more. I was capable of more.

I had an entrepreneurial spirit that couldn’t be ignored.

I began studying the work of James Allen, Napoleon Hill, Earl Nightingale and Bob Proctor.

The information was mind-blowing! The idea that my thoughts, feelings and actions determine my results was a truly liberating concept. I learned that I hold the key to the prison that is my mind.

If I could control my thoughts, I could create anything I wanted!

I remember introducing a couple of friends to my new world – those who I believed would be present in my life for a lifetime.

I was so excited to share my discovery with them and disappointed that all I received in return was skepticism and negativity.

It was deflating and discouraging, to say the least.   

But then I remembered... if I’m the most successful, ambitious and driven of all my friends, I had better find new friends.

And in order to attract those new friends, I must first make the space for them and create, what I like to now call, The Friendship Vacuum.

As painful as it was, I knew I HAD to make some changes with regard to the people I was hanging around. 

If I wanted to become a successful entrepreneur and have the time, money and mental freedom I longed for, I needed to spend time with others looking to achieve similar dreams – or better yet, people who have already achieved them.

I started spending less and less time with those friends in my life who seemed perfectly happy and content where they were and had no desire whatsoever for something more.

They weren’t bad people, by the way; they just weren’t interested in changing or growing or improving.

Before long, I was lonelier than the man in the lighthouse.

I quickly began questioning my decision. It was a mental battle each and every day not to pick up the phone and apologize for my mistake in order to rekindle our friendship.

But I stayed true to my decision and wished them well.

“Successful people make decisions quickly and firmly. Unsuccessful people make decisions slowly, and they change them often.” - Napoleon Hill.

Months passed, then years, and I still didn’t have any new, close, true friends to speak of. And then there was one. Finally, after 5 years of waiting, waiting, waiting! 

I would quickly discover that one is all I needed, because the vision I held was very clear. I asked the universe for a BFF who...

• Loves me unconditionally
• Sees the beauty in my quirkiness
• Is interested in growing and studying together
• Can keep a secret
• Let’s me in
• Makes me laugh when I cry
• Can find the positive in any situation
• Is driven for success
• Operates with integrity, kindness and positivity

There are more traits I asked for, but those are the biggies. Enter Mykie Oyler.

It seemed out of the blue when she entered my life; I didn’t see it coming, yet I knew she was on her way and I welcomed the opportunity for new friendship with open arms.

Once we met it was so obvious that she was exactly who I had been waiting for – and well worth the wait. She was all the things I asked for, and so much more.

There was no way I was squandering this answer to my prayers. I jumped in with both feet, complete faith and an open heart. I trusted her with my secrets.

I let her see me cry. I let her in to my quirky side. And I offered her the same safe space of unconditional friendship, as well.  

We became fast friends.

Now, 2 years later, ours is one of the most precious and valued relationships in my life. Where I lack, she excels and visa versa. We’re an incredible team.

And here’s an interesting insight I experienced by creating a Friendship Vacuum:  We don’t attract to us what we want; we attract what we are.  

During those lonely years, I put all my time and energy into learning and applying the material I was both studying personally and working with on a career basis.

My mind became so clear and focused on the traits I dearly desired in a true friend, that I literally incorporated and reinforced those very same traits in myself.    

I attracted what I wanted because it had become who I was. Isn’t that interesting?

The Friendship Vacuum may seem like a scary concept – and rightfully so. But it’s worth it! And that’s why I challenge you to really consider your relationships and whether they serve and support you in your growth. 

Here’s my promise to you: If you will get clear about what you want and who you want to be, create a space for it in your life, and be willing to give as good as you get - you will be very pleasantly surprised by the kind of quality relationships waiting on the other side of the Friendship Vacuum!

Courtesy of Bob Proctor's 'Insight of the Day' service: http://tiny.cc/InsightOfDay

DON'T Turn Your Passions Into Your Career.

Posted by John Lee of YourBestYouEver.net

AT first sight, the above seems to fly in the face of accepted wisdom, given that we're often told, as youngsters, to find something we love and devote ourselves to it.

But trying to turn whatever passion - or passions - you may discover in life into your career, your business or your profession doesn't always work out.

And there are apparently very good reasons why, as revealed by US writer and serial entrepreneur, Steve Olsher, in this revealing and often surprising 18-minute video interview.

Steve has been a businessman since his late teens, in areas as diverse as nightclubs, the catalogue industry and real estate.

For the past 5 years, he's also been helping other people to discover and monetize their own skills and life purpose, as outlined in his book, 'What Is Your "What"?'

As such, he's become something of a 'Reinvention Expert' and in the recording explains how this works to Mind Movies' Natalie Ledwell.

Among the subjects he covers are:

* The 3 criteria that must be met if you're to turn an interest into a career or business

* How the application of your gifts and the talents you develop can change over time

* The 3 steps you need to take to discover what you REALLY ought to be doing - one being OK, but all 3 best

The advice he offers is practical, sensible and totally down-to-earth. There's even a link for you to get a free copy of his book. Just click on the link below to go to the original recording:

http://tiny.cc/6bj1bx

Sunday 16 March 2014

Mark Twain's Top 9 Tips for Living A Good Life

Originally posted by Henrik Edberg at 'Daily Good'

“It’s no wonder that truth is stranger than fiction. Fiction has to make sense.”

“When your friends begin to flatter you on how young you look, it’s a sure sign you’re getting old.”

“Let us live so that when we come to die even the undertaker will be sorry.” 

One of America's greatest ever authors - Mark Twain
YOU may know Mark Twain for some of his very popular books like Adventures of Huckleberry Finn and The Adventures of Tom Sawyer.

He was a writer and also a humorist, satirist and lecturer.

Twain is known for his many – and often funny – quotes. Here are a few of my favorite tips from him.

1. Approve of yourself

“A man cannot be comfortable without his own approval.”

If you don’t approve of yourself, of your behavior and actions, then you’ll probably walk around most of the day with a sort of uncomfortable feeling. If you, on the other hand, approve of yourself then you tend to become relaxed and gain inner freedom to do more of what you really want.

This can, in a related way, be a big obstacle in personal growth. You may have all the right tools to grow in some way but you feel an inner resistance. You can’t get there.

What you may be bumping into there are success barriers. You are putting up barriers in your own mind of what you may or may not deserve. Or barriers that tell you what you are capable of. They might tell you that you aren’t really the kind of person that could accomplish what you’re attempting.

Or, if you make some headway in the direction you want to go, you may start to sabotage yourself: to keep yourself in a place that is familiar to you.

So you need give yourself approval and allow yourself to be who you want to be. Don’t look for the approval of others, but from yourself to dissolve that inner barrier or let go of that self-sabotaging tendency. This is no easy task and it can take time.

2. Your limitations may just be in your mind

“Age is an issue of mind over matter. If you don’t mind, it doesn’t matter.”

So many limitations are mostly in our minds. We may, for instance, think that people will disapprove because we are too tall, too old or balding.

But these things mostly matter when you think they matter. Because you become self-conscious and worried about what people may think.

And people pick up on that and may react in negative ways. Or you may interpret anything they do as a negative reaction because you are so fearful of a bad reaction and so focused in on yourself.

If you, on the other hand, don’t mind then people tend to not mind that much either. And if you don’t mind then you won’t let that part of you become a self-imposed roadblock in your life.

And it is seldom too late to do what you want to do.

3. Lighten up and have some fun

“Humor is mankind’s greatest blessing. Against the assault of laughter nothing can stand.”

Humor and laughter are amazing tools. They can turn any serious situation into something to laugh about. They can lighten the mood just about anywhere.

And a lighter mood is often a better space to work in because now your body and mind aren’t filled with negative emotions.

When you are more light-hearted and relaxed, the solution to a situation is often easier to both come up with and implement.

4. Let go of anger

“Anger is an acid that can do more harm to the vessel in which it is stored than to anything on which it is poured.”

Anger is mostly pretty pointless. It can cause situations to get out of hand. And from a selfish perspective it is often more hurtful for the one who’s angry than the person s/he’s angry at.

Even if you feel angry at someone for days, recognize that you are mostly just hurting yourself. The other person may not even be aware that you are angry at him or her.

Either talking to the person and resolving the conflict or letting go of anger as quickly as possible are pretty good tips to make your life more pleasurable.

5. Release yourself from entitlement

“Don’t go around saying the world owes you a living. The world owes you nothing. It was here first.”

When you are young, your mom and dad may give you a lot of things. As you grow older, you may have a sense of entitlement.

You may feel like the world should just give you what you want or that it owes you something.

This belief can cause a lot of anger and frustration in your life. Because the world may not give you what expect. On the other hand, this can be liberating too.

You realize that it is up to you to shape your own life and for you to work towards what you want. You are not a kid anymore, waiting for your parents or the world to give you something.

You are in the driver’s seat now. And you can go pretty much wherever you want.

6. If you’re taking a different path, prepare for reactions

“A person with a new idea is a crank until the idea succeeds.”

I think this has quite a bit of relevance to self-improvement.

If you start to change or do something different than you usually do, people may react in different ways.

Some may be happy for you. Some may be indifferent. Some may be puzzled or react in negative and discouraging ways.

Much of these reactions are probably not so much about you, but about the person who said it and his/her life. How they feel about themselves is coming through in the words they use and judgments they make.

And that’s OK. I think it’s pretty likely that they won’t react as negatively as you may imagine. Or they will probably at least go back to focusing on their own challenges pretty soon.

So what other people may say and think, and letting that hold you back, is probably just fantasy and a barrier you build in your mind.

You may find that when you finally cross that inner threshold you created, the people around you may not shun you or go chasing after you with pitchforks. :) They might just go: “OK”.

7. Keep your focus steadily on what you want

“Drag your thoughts away from your troubles… by the ears, by the heels, or any other way you can manage it.”

What you focus your mind on greatly determines how things play out. You can focus on your problems and dwell in suffering and a victim mentality.

Or you can focus on the positive in situation, what you can learn from that situation or just focus your mind on something entirely else.

It may be “normal” to dwell on problems and swim around in a sea of negativity. But that is a choice. And a thought habit.

You may start to dwell on problems instead of refocusing your mind on something more useful. But you can also start to build a habit of learning to gain more and more control of where you put your focus.

8. Don’t focus so much on making yourself feel good

“The best way to cheer yourself up is to try to cheer somebody else up.”

This may be a bit of a counter-intuitive tip. But as I wrote previously, one of the best ways to feel good about yourself is to make someone else feel good or to help them in some way.

This is a great way to look at things to create an upward spiral of positivity and an exchange of value with people.

You help someone and both of you feel good. The person you helped feels inclined to give you a hand later on since people tend to want to reciprocate. And so the both of you are feeling good and helping each other.

Those positive feelings are contagious to other people and so you may end up making them feel good too.

And the help you received from your friend may inspire you to go and help another friend. And so the upward spiral grows and continues.

9. Do what you want to do.

“Twenty years from now, you will be more disappointed by the things that you didn’t do than by the ones you did so.

So throw off the bowlines. Sail away from the safe harbor. Catch the trade winds in your sails. Explore. Dream. Discover.”

Awesome quote. And I really don’t have much to add to that one. Well, maybe to suggest you write it down and keep it as a daily reminder – on your fridge or bathroom door – of what you can actually do with your life.

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Overcoming Anxiety, Fear and Panic - with John Assaraf

Posted by John Lee of YourBestYouEver.net

THINK of personal development luminaries like John Assaraf and it's easy to imagine they lead a pretty rarefied existence, full of joy, peace, calm and prosperity.

Overcome negative emotions with John Assaraf
After all, haven't they got all 'manifestation', 'abundance' and 'Law of Attraction' methodologies down pat?

Of course, he obviously experiences the same ups and downs, highs and lows, and positive and negative emotions as anyone else.

The difference, maybe, is how great teachers, such as John, deal with these events. And the video you can access below illustrates the point perfectly.

As the title suggests, it's all about overcoming any kind of negative emotion, of the sort that inevitably affect all of us from time to time.

In the video, the star of 'The Secret' recounts a personal situation where he, himself, suffered huge fear and panic.

Better still, he offers 4 quick, easy and highly-effective steps we can all take to get ourselves back on an even keel. It's only around six minutes long and well worth a look.

Just click on the link below to be taken to the original recording:

http://tiny.cc/3k4gbx

Monday 10 March 2014

'Motivational Quotes' - an Uplifting Free Video from Flickspire.com

Posted by John Lee of YourBestYouEver.net

AS it’s Monday morning once more, many of us will be returning to work – after a relaxing weekend – feeling less than enthusiastic about the week ahead. Some even with a heavy heart!

What better time, then, for a short video, featuring some inspiring, uplifting and thought-provoking quotes from some of the greatest minds and most successful people ever? 



They include Walt Disney, Martin Luther King, Jr, Ralph Waldo Emerson and Leo Tolstoy, to name just a few.

There’s also some beautiful imagery in the video, which was put together by the team at Flickspire.com. So take a few short minutes to view what’s a perfect antidote to the Monday morning blues.

Or any other ‘blues’ come to that. Hope you have a great week.

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Saturday 8 March 2014

Secrets of the Brain Unlocked - How to Increase Your Brain Power

By Mark KY Tan

THE brain contains everything that makes us who we are. This comprises not only every talent and skill, but also the records of all our experiences, hopes and dreams, the friendships and achievements that give meaning and purpose to our lives.

It's no wonder then, that with every little 'brain hiccup' - forgetting a name, losing our car or house keys (again), a sudden losing streak in our Bridge or Mahjong game - we see our lives slipping away. In fact, many people fear losing their memories more than death itself.

Unlock your brain's secrets... and boost its power
The good news is that although the brain does shrink with age, its remaining capacity is very large. Even with age, most brains can still learn and add new stores of information.

Plus, there are techniques that show you how to increase brain power and maximize your mental abilities. You can train your brain and improve the efficiency of your memory, whatever your age.

How to increase brain power - Age and Experience

The common saying 'You can't teach an old dog new tricks' is not true. Ageing may have some effect on memory and learning capacity. However, the experience and knowledge store that age brings can compensate for much of this.

Moreover, memory improvement techniques can help preserve your mental functions into old age. Using simple aids such as diaries, post-it-notes or electronic reminders can also help counter memory slips.

How to increase brain power - Expand our Interests

As we age, our mental filing cabinets become packed with records of our lives well lived. Yet through it all, the brain makes more complex associations between ideas and puts new learning in the context of a vast store of experience.

This means that it becomes easier to take in new information about topics of which we have some knowledge and experience.

So someone who plays chess as a hobby, for instance, will build on his knowledge of different chess positions and strategies the more he plays. He can draw on this knowledge and experience when he encounters something similar next time, and become a better player.

The same is true of any area of interest, hobby or profession - stamp collecting, music, politics, medicine, psychology, astrophysics or even television soap operas. Besides helping to maintain your mental abilities, pursuing a new interest will make life more stimulating.

Two Breakthroughs

The brain, once a mysterious 'black box' that scientists could not decode, is finally revealing some of its biggest secrets. This offers huge promise to anyone who's worried about "losing it". Two of the main findings include

(i) We do grow our brain cells

Who doesn't remember downing one too many glasses in their youth and joking, 'Well, there goes another thousand brain cells'? Many of us still believe that we start life with billions of brain cells, and then slowly lose them with time (and alcohol).

We'll then have fewer brain cells by our twenties and thirties, and by middle age. But in fact, in a remarkable discovery, scientists have learned that the brain generates new cells every day, in a process called neurogenesis.

What really happens is that most new brain cell growth continues until early adulthood, around the age of 18 to 20. Thereafter, new brain cells do grow, but more die off than are replaced, so there is a small and gradual but progressive overall loss of brain cells throughout the rest of adulthood.

The crucial point is that it's not the number of cells, but the connections between them that matter. Whenever you learn new things, you create new connections between the cells and thus increase the capacity of your brain.

(ii) The more you use your brain, the greater its capacity

The second major new finding is equally encouraging. We used to think of the brain as if it were a fixed electric power grid, like those that send electricity to our cities. When the system gets old or overloaded, power decreases which then leads to flickering lights and break down of appliances. We believed that age wore down memory and comprehension in a similar way and there was nothing we could do about it.

Today, we know that the brain can continue to adapt and expand its capacity as needed. Not only does it generate new brain cells but it also creates new connections between those cells in the form of intricate nerve fibres called dendrites. The more connections in your brain, the faster and better you think.

Brain Power Truth (1)

There are more potential connections between the cells in a single brain than atoms in the entire universe. The brain has about 100 billion neurons (nerve cells), and each neuron has up to 1,000 'docking points' where it can connect with others. If all of these potential connections were made, there would be well over 100 thousand billion information exchanging links. In practice, of course, only a tiny fraction of these connections are ever established.

Use it or Lose it

Whether you're balancing your accounts, learning salsa, or playing gin rummy, your brain's 'electricity grid' lights up like Times Square. Chemical messages travel at speeds of up to several hundred kmh from one nerve cell to the next along 'cables' called axons. Waiting to receive all that information are nerve cell 'branches' called dendrites. You yourself play the most important role in keeping this network humming.

According to Robert Logie, professor of human cognitive neuroscience at Edinburgh University,  in Scotland, learning new skills and new knowledge increases the number of connections in the brain. The more connections there are, the more efficient the brain will be. Forcing our brain to learn new things causes it to sprout more and more dendrites, expanding our capacity to think, learn and remember.

Being mentally lazy - getting stuck in a rut, never trying anything new - has the opposite effect. The brain allows unused neurons to die and 'prunes' under-used dendrites, just as a gardener prunes dying branches on a tree.

Brain Power truth (2)

A small number of people possess what memory experts call 'total recall'. They can remember every detail - what they wore, what they ate, what the weather was like, who visited that day and so on - of any specific day from adolescence onwards. Such memory feats highlight the vast potential of human memory.

Rich Rewards

Keeping our brains in tip-top shape may even protect against the decline in mental functioning that tends to occur with age. Many studies have shown that higher levels of leisure related mental, physical and social activities are associated with better cognitive health later in life.

Of course, it could be that people who choose a more varied and challenging lifestyle are more mentally active to begin with. But taking up or increasing your level of activity does seem to confer benefits.

A 2008 review commissioned by the UK government's foresight project, 'Mental Capital and Wellbeing', noted that cognitive training in later life could improve memory, reasoning and speed of information processing, and that the gains could be long-lasting, for at least 5 years.

A multitude of other studies have reached similar conclusions. Here are simple everyday ways to increase brain power.

Talking - A study found that chatting for 10 minutes a day improves memory and test scores.

Walking - In a study published in the Journal of the American Medical Association, researchers looking at data from the US Nurses Study, involving more than 18,000 women, found that long-term regular physical activity, including walking, is associated with significantly better cognitive function and less cognitive decline in older women.

Omega-3 dietary supplement - A study looked at use of omega-3 in 65 older adults showed improvements in the connectivity of the brain, increases in the size of key brain regions and improved cognitive functioning after 26 weeks of use.

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What's the best way to nurture your neurological garden? Small lifestyle tweaks can help you think more clearly, retain information more effectively and concentrate better. It can be as simple as going for a brisk walk, taking an occasional class, or getting enough sleep.

Diet is important. A study published in 'Archives of Neurology' suggests that following a Mediterranean diet can provide a powerful defense against mental decline. After 5 years, people who followed this diet - high in fish, fruit, vegetables, legumes and monounsaturated fats such as olive oil, moderate in alcohol and low in red meat and dairy products - had a 28% lower risk of cognitive impairment.

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A 'happy' brain can help to fight off infection. The body's immune system responds directly to changes in the brain. A sad event - such as losing a loved one - can produce a measurable depletion in the number of infection-fighting blood cells for 4 days.

There are also 'brain villains' that can rob your brain of its power. How can your protect yourself? Some usual advice: smoking and drinking to excess are just as bad for your brain as they are for the rest of your body. But there are other more surprising findings.

Muddled thinking? Blame it on stress. In one study, stressed medical students performed significantly worse on an important exam. Depression can also rob us of brain power: The symptoms can include foggy memory, difficulty with comprehension, even slurred speech. In elderly people, these symptoms are commonly mistaken for dementia, but mental skills can improve when depression is treated.

How to increase brain power - Cross-train your brain

We've probably heard the common advice to take up crossword puzzles and play Mahjong or chess to keep the mind fit. That's a good start. It will definitely make you better at solving cross-word puzzles or playing either game.

But that alone won't help you find your car keys or remember phone numbers and names, says cognitive neuroscientist Robert Logie. Just as runners devote a portion of their training to swimming and cycling, you'll need to vary the range and difficulty level of your activities if you want to keep your brain in prime shape. Athletes call this cross training

Go through a series of puzzles and exercises designed to challenge your brain in the 6 main cognitive areas: attention and focus, general memory, processing speed, verbal skills, number skills and reasoning.

Spend a few minutes on them weekly and you should notice improvements in your brain 'fitness'. Discover everyday strategies to recall names that are always at the tip of your tongue.

There's evidence that intellectually curious people are more resistant to brain decline. They have what scientists call a cognitive reserve, which means that they have more nerve cells and dendrites than others to begin with.

So if their brains eventually suffer damage due to disease such as Alzheimers, they are likely to function well for a longer period. So develop a curious mind for things around you that matter.

Are you now inspired to banish memory slips, chase away brain fogs, sharpen up your concentration and focus, reduce the risk of dementia and boost your self confidence? Look no further. Check out my website in the link below to find out more about how to increase brain power to make the most out of life.

Mark Tan, MT Capital

I take a keen interest in personal development and helping people make the most out of life. I believe in life-long learning and self-improvement to keep being relevant, meaningful and contributing to society. I have spent many years studying the traits and values of successful people and applying this in my job as a successful fund manager and in my personal life.

To learn more about how to get the most out of life, please visit my website at http://www.assetmanagementadvisory.com

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5 Things Super Successful People Do Before 8am

By Jennifer Cohen

RISE and shine! Morning time just became your new best friend. Love it or hate it, utilizing the morning hours before work may be the key to a successful and healthy lifestyle.

That’s right, early rising is a common trait found in many CEOs, government officials, and other influential people. (Former British Prime Minister) Margaret Thatcher was up every day at 5am.

Boost your success ... with 5 simple habits
Frank Lloyd Wright at 4am and Robert Iger – the CEO of Disney – wakes at 4.30am just to name a few. I know what you’re thinking – you do your best work at night.

Not so fast. According to ‘Inc. Magazine’, morning people have been found to be more proactive and more productive.

In addition, the health benefits for those with a life before work go on and on. Let’s explore 5 of the things successful people do before 8am.

1. Exercise. I’ve said it once, I’ll say it again. Most people that work out daily, work out in the morning.

Whether it’s a morning yoga session or a trip to the gym, exercising before work gives you a boost of energy for the day and that deserved sense of accomplishment.

Anyone can tackle a pile of paperwork after 200 ab reps! Morning workouts also eliminate the possibility of flaking out on your cardio after a long day at work.

Even if you aren’t bright eyed and bushy-tailed at the thought of a 5am jog, try waking up 15 minutes early for a quick bedside set of pushups or stretching.

It’ll help wake up your body, and prep you for your day.

2. Map Out Your Day. Maximize your potential by mapping out your schedule for the day, as well as your goals and to dos.

The morning is a good time for this as it is often one of the only quiet times a person gets throughout the day.

The early hours foster easier reflection that helps when prioritizing your activities. They also allow for uninterrupted problem-solving when trying to fit everything into your timetable.

While scheduling, don’t forget about your mental health. Plan a 10-minute break after that stressful meeting for a quick walk around the block or a moment of meditation at your desk.

Trying to eat healthy? Schedule a small window in the evening to pack a few nutritious snacks to bring to work the next day.

3. Eat a Healthy Breakfast. We all know that rush out the door with a cup of coffee and an empty stomach feeling.

You sit down at your desk, and you’re already wondering how early that taco truck sets up camp outside your office.

No good. Take that extra time in the morning to fuel your body for the tasks ahead of it. It will help keep your mind on what’s at hand and not your growling stomach.

Not only is breakfast good for your physical health, it is also a good time to connect socially.

Even five minutes of talking with your kids or spouse while eating a quick bowl of oatmeal can boost your spirits before heading out the door.

4. Visualization. These days we talk about our physical health ad nauseam, but sometimes our mental health gets overlooked.

The morning is the perfect time to spend some quiet time inside your mind meditating or visualizing.

Take a moment to visualize your day ahead of you, focusing on the successes you will have.

Even just a minute of visualization and positive thinking can help improve your mood and outlook on your workload for the day.

5. Make Your Day Top Heavy. We all have that one item on our ‘to-do list’ that we dread.

It looms over you all day (or week) until you finally suck it up and do it after much procrastination.

Here’s an easy tip to save yourself the stress – do that least desirable task on your list first.

Instead of anticipating the unpleasantness of it from first coffee through your lunch break, get it out of the way.

The morning is the time when you are (generally) more well rested and your energy level is up. Therefore, you are better equipped to handle more difficult projects.

And look at it this way..... your day will get progressively easier, not the other way around.

By the time your work day is ending, you’re winding down with easier to dos and heading into your free time more relaxed. Success!

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Thursday 6 March 2014

Learning to Dance in the Rain

Posted by John Lee of YourBestYouEver.net

IF you're a regular recipient of the excellent short videos produced by the team at Flickspire.com, you'll now they're always inspiring, uplifting and refreshing.

Learn to 'Dance in the Rain'
And the one you can access via the link below - entitled 'Learning to Dance in the Rain' - is no different. It features a lovely poem called 'Weather Report' by BJ Gallagher and is all about the power of gratitude.

As you read this, you're maybe rolling your eyes and whispering, "Oh, not that again," to yourself. And who could honestly blame you?

We live in a cynical world, after all, and if you're interested in personal development to any extent, you'll have heard this message many times before. Yet it's one that's always worth remembering and trying again.

Whenever you do stop to 'count your blessings' - as they called it before the 'Law of Attraction', manifestation, abundance and so on became popular - your outlook automatically changes.

You tend to feel lighter, happier and more positive as you realize there's much your life to be glad about and even more to look forward to as your spirit lifts.

So do yourself a favor and suspend your cynicism for a couple of minutes and click on the link below, which will take you to the original recording.

You'll feel a whole lot better for doing so, I'm absolutely certain.

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Sunday 2 March 2014

24 Wise Questions You Should Ask Yourself – The Year Gone & The Year Ahead

By Bernadette Logue
THE greatest block in your life is YOU.
The greatest solution to that block is also YOU.
If you do not learn from your experiences, and take control of your own energy (your beliefs, thoughts, feelings and actions) then you will surely continue to reap the same results and repeat the same patterns.
If those results and patterns are working for you, then great! 
If they are not, then below are 24 questions to help you tap into your own inner wisdom for the answers that will propel you ahead as a clearer, more inspired, empowered and insightful you.
Everything in your life stems from your energy and the paradigm through which you view the world. So it’s time to own that and POWER UP.

24 Questions


Grab a pen and paper, and answer these questions in relation to the year now gone and the year ahead:

1. What have I been doing, and continue to do, in my life that I know is NOT working for me?
2. Why have I not yet taken action to ‘course correct’ my journey in order to get different results?
3. What am I procrastinating about doing?
4. What negative habits do I have that I know I need to let go of? Click here to refer to our list “28 Habits that Block Your Happiness & How to Let Them Go”
5. Regarding the greatest challenges that I faced last year, what lessons did I learn that I can apply this year for my benefit?
6. Is there anything I intended to achieve last year which did not eventuate?
7. Did I invest my attention, time or resources into my personal growth, knowledge, well-being and/or happiness in any way?
8. What goal, dream or aspiration do I have for myself for the coming year that I’m ready to make happen?
9. Where is fear currently controlling me?
10. Am I feeling professionally fulfilled?
11. What would I most like to learn how to do or be for the year ahead?
12. How have I been using my “free time” and has that helped me feel inspired, vibrant, healthy and fulfilled?
13. Are my current habits for eating, drinking and exercising working for me or against me?
14. Am I holding any resentment towards others or myself?
15. How could I be of service in the year ahead in a way that will make the world a better place?
16. Which of my relationships need more of my loving attention to prosper?
17. Which of my relationships are toxic and no longer serve myself or the other person?
18. What have been my strengths and achievements in the past that I can celebrate?
19. Am I living a life that is meaningful to me?
20. Am I proud of who I am, how I behave and what I offer into the world?
21. What feelings dominated my experience of life last year?
22. What feelings do I most want to experience as I look ahead?
23. What I am most passionate about in my life that I’d like to do more of?
24. If I could improve one aspect of my life, what would it be? (e.g. relationships, career, finances, health, state of mind, emotional balance, adventure, self-expression…)

Set Your Vision


After you’ve answered these questions, it’s time to create a vision for yourself.

Let your answers above inform your vision for what is most important to you, in terms of how you want to be and what you want to do, what you want to achieve or to change, what actions are a high priority, and what positive energy and success mindset you want to enter… so that it flows on to create the results you deserve and desire.
Write your vision down! Make it real by taking it out of your imagination and putting it on paper. That act is one of declaration, taking something from an idea and turning it into a tangible written vision. This focuses your attention on what you want.

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Saturday 1 March 2014

My Juicy Manifesto on Love

By Teresa M Goetz

SO, this is sort of my mini, juicy manifesto on love. Dig in.

Did you know that you can actually cultivate more love within yourself? Love is not something that happens to you, it is something that is in you. 

Teresa M Goetz
My constant refrain is to always be aware of your thoughts because they create your emotions. And your thoughts can generate love within you.

Love is something within you; it is the condition of your heart. You can "recondition" your heart by thinking loving thoughts and by having the awareness of love.

This one is simple. It really is. It starts with a simple thought: everything is love.

When you believe (and to believe, just start with wanting and trying to believe) that every interaction is love, you begin to see every interaction as "holy".

Your own vibration emanates from you in wordless communication.

What you think about, you feel. When you feel it, those you interact with also feel it, at least on a subconscious level. Since we are all connected, this isn't really surprising, is it?

Love can become the way you approach everything in your life. One of my favorite simple quotes, by Byron Katie, is that you learn to "love what is".

That doesn't mean that things won't change, because the one constant in life, of course, is change.

But that's the point. Loving what is means you accept responsibility for creating your own reality, for who you are in this moment, and for the beautiful life that you are gifted.

When you love what is, you will have more to love because you are living in the vibration of love, in every moment of your life.

Another fun fact about love is that love is a magnet for more love. The more you love, the more you have to love. And the more your life is filled with... love.

Try this: hug someone. Then hug someone and think about how much you love them. Hold them a bit longer. Feel that?

THAT is the love that is there for you at any time, and accessible for you whenever you want it. Even when you are not with the person.

Even if you don't have that person. Even if you just want to have that person. It starts from within you.

Remember, thoughts create emotion. Often your emotion feels spontaneous, but it is actually preceded by a rapid-fire thought process you probably weren't aware of.

Touch someone absent-mindedly. Touch yourself absent-mindedly. Then touch with the thought of love. Do you notice how your sense of touch is heightened?

Your body changes, softens. Your mind relaxes a bit. THAT is the natural state we can move into, if we choose.

I know it is hard when you are scared and lonely, or when things don't seem to be going your way. But open your heart and mind to the thought of love and beauty.

Begin to think of yourself as courageous, beautiful, splendid, magnificent, capable and strong. Think loving thoughts about yourself.

The creator did not choose one to be happy and one to be sad or lonely. Your perceptions that you are unlovable are what need to change. We are all born equally loved and lovable.

So how do you cultivate love? By thinking loving thoughts, feeling the love swell in your heart-space.

If you want to move out of fear and into love, begin to allow yourself to replace the fearful thoughts with simple thoughts of things you love: your pet, a family member, an incredibly gorgeous flower.

Begin to fill your mind with things you do love. (You will find that you love many, many things indeed!) Feel that. Breathe that.

Do it daily and often. You will begin to experience love on a more consistent basis. When you do this consistently, you build the "muscle" of love. Actually, it's kind of like compounded love interest.

When you replace fear with love, life looks a whole lot different, doesn't it?

Wishing you buckets of loving thoughts and experiences of love on a daily basis. Watch your world change... with compounded interest!

Teri Goetz, CPC, MS, L.Ac. is fiercely committed to helping women transform what they believe is possible for themselves so they reclaim their excitement and passion for what's next and wake up every day to a life they love.

By showing women how to reconnect with those alive and juicy parts of themselves, Teri shows women how to merge the very best of who they are now with that spark, energy and enthusiasm for life they once felt years ago.

If you are looking for a wise, spiritually-grounded expert to help you reconnect with that passion and purpose deep inside of you, push aside your fears, and find what's been missing in your life, you've come to the right place.

With more than 22 years of experience, Teri can help you transform your fears, doubts and old stories into a new life of unshakeable confidence and joy. http://www.healthybeing.com teresa@healthybeing.com

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