By Dr Jaime Kulaga
"The grass isn't greener on the other side. It's
greener where you water it." - Unknown.
"It is often possible to get greater enjoyment from
what we are already doing, rather than try to find something else." - L.
Don Siebet.
"The foolish man seeks happiness in the distance, the
wise grows it under his feet." - James Oppenheim.
YOU may have heard a couple of these quotes before. The
reality is, many times we get tired of what we are currently doing in life and
then we halt all operations to go find something new.
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| When life gets boring... create a remix! |
And halting doesn't always mean we halt the physical aspect,
but it could mean we halt the mental aspect.
Meaning, we just shut down mentally and avoid, be mean or
negative toward the current relationship or task. We cease using positive
energy toward developing the old.
New means passion and excitement. That sounds very
fulfilling and fun. But, don't new things get old at some point? Don't new
things eventually get boring?
Think about a new hit on the radio that you love. You play
it 100 times over on full blast and swear that you could never get sick of this
one.
This song has a great beat and you can relate to every
single word this singer is saying. But, after the 200th play, you find that you
are quite sick of the song. How could that be?
You absolutely loved this one! Then, one day, as you are
scanning the radio stations in traffic you hear that song.
Your beat just got a remix and it is mixed with an old song
from "back in the day" when you were growing up!
This once boring song, with a little remix, was all you
needed to be re-sparked before you found yourself singing at the top of your
lungs in the car again.
Often, most everything that we want is right in front of us.
It doesn't take an all-out manhunt of finding someone or something new to find
happiness.
Happiness is often about rekindling the passion and spark
with what you do have. So, go ahead, create that funky remix.
Here is an example of adding in a remix at work. In the workforce,
you may find that you are sick of your job.
And while there are many reasons that it is a good idea to
look for other work, there are also many reasons why you should or could stay
and be happy doing it.
Try taking on a new project on a topic that interests you. Apply
for an advancement or take on tasks that would align you with that advancement.
Get involved in work functions, and talk to more positive
people at work.
Sometimes, relationships with partners get boring. We all go
through a phase in life where we feel the spice is gone or the passion is
drifting away.
Instead of putting in energy walking away from this person,
use your energy to add excitement.
Talk together about the past and what added life to your
relationship or look into each other's bucket lists and start knocking off some
goals together. Listen to each other.
A great book on rekindling lost passion comes from Gary
Chapman's, 'The Five Love Languages'.
Whatever it is in life that you have, before you walk away
from it and expend your energy on finding something new, channel all that
energy, positivity and time into what you currently have.
Being at a job for five years and choosing to put positive
energy into it before leaving might yield passion, advancement and a greater
sense of self-esteem and confidence.
These are the factors that lead to happiness.
Remember, if you're off to find something new, it will at
one point get old, and you'll have to put just as much time and energy into that
relationship, job or thing that you're being requested to do now.
Relationships can get boring, work can get boring, and songs
on the radio can get boring. Instead of walking away from your favorite person,
career or song, create a remix.
This week's goal: Find ways to add in a little mix to the
areas within your life that you feel passion or excitement is slipping away
from.
Dr. Jaime Kulaga is a Licensed Mental Health Counselor and
Motivational Speaker.
She is the author of 'The SuperWoman's Guide to Super
Fulfillment: Step-by-Step Strategies to Create Work-Life Balance'.
She is the inspirational founder of the nationally known
SuperWoman Workshops.
Dr. Kulaga has been featured internationally for her
expertise in Work-Life Balance. http://www.mindfulrehab.com
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