By Rose Costas
“Only when we are no
longer afraid do we begin to live.” – Dorothy Thompson
ARE you, like me, constantly thinking, planning or worrying
about the future and what it has in store?
Do you think about your financial situation and if there
will be enough money to live a decent life? Do you sometimes worry that you
will be alone and unhappy? You are not alone.
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These are only a few of the many questions that flood our
minds daily and for which we have no answers. We have chosen to live our lives
in fear.
We have chosen to hold ourselves captive by the fear of the
unknown.
It is fine to feel fear, as it is a natural emotion. But
fear was never meant to keep us from going after our dreams. Fear should be your
motivator, not your downfall.
Most of us are being held in bondage by fear.
Let go of all your fears and go out and live your life to
its fullest. Make the decision today that you will no longer live in fear, but
while you are working on achieving your goal you will enjoy life.
Here are a few tips that I practice that could help you to
rid your life of fear.
1. Write down your
fears
Writing down the things you are most afraid of will give you
tangible evidence of the things you need to work on.
Try to find out why you’re so afraid of these specific
things and if they are currently happening to you. If they aren’t, then they
might never be a part of your future either.
Don’t be driven by your fears.
2. Live in the moment
Do not worry about the future, as your future is every
minute you are alive, and if bad things are not happening to you, then they
most likely won’t.
This moment is all you have and this moment, believe it or
not, is your future.
You are living in the future as you live minute by minute.
The trouble is you are looking at yourself 10, 20 years down the road, and not
at your ‘now’.
3. Do not project
your misery
When you spend your time worrying and fearing the unknown
you are projecting your misery that you think you will have then, now. You are
torturing yourself prematurely and without reason.
If you are happy now, why then are you worrying about the
day you won’t be happy? Live in the moment, because this moment is all you have
and might be all you will ever have.
4. Tame your mind
If you allow your mind to take control of you, it will.
Your mind is like an untamed animal and must be restrained
to remain under your control. You must discipline your mind to stay within the
limits of what is good, positive and healthy.
Do not allow your mind to take you places that you do not
want to go. Stay on familiar ground or places that bring you the happiness and
the joy you want.
If you are beginning to feel sad, worried or fearful, remove
your mind from that place and go back to a place of tranquility, positive
vibes and happiness.
5. Don’t shift the
blame
It is nobody’s fault you are unhappy, sad, fearful and or
worried. It is all yours. You choose to allow your mind to go to places you do
not belong.
Just imagine you have suffered a bad divorce or broken
relationship. The first thing you are going to say is, ‘Why did he or she do
this to me?’ No, instead, ask yourself, ‘Why am I doing this to me?’
Nobody is doing anything to you. You are the person in control
of your emotions, and you are the one who is allowing yourself to feel this
way.
6. The past is kind
The past is over. The pain and hurt are behind you. The past
is very kind to us because it leaves. It is the past. Everything will be in the
past some day.
None of what you are currently going through will last
forever, and in a few weeks, months or even a few years you will look back and
it too will be in your past.
The past is very kind as it keeps getting further and
further away from you. The pain - even though great - is becoming a distant
memory, and soon it will be remembered no more.
7. The future is
amazing
The future is as bright as you want it to be. Think of the
pain in your past and how wonderful you are feeling now, at this very moment.
Isn’t it wonderful when you can feel this good?
That is the reason the future must be viewed as wonderful
and pleasant.
Whatever you want your future to be, live as though it is,
because it can be, if you want it to be. The future is amazing and fabulous
because it is here now.
We all fear the unknown at some point or another in our
lives, but none of us should allow those fears to keep us down.
Overcome your fears by being courageous enough to pick
yourself up when you hit rock bottom. Falling is not the end and doesn’t mean
you are a failure. Quitting is failing.
About the Author
Rose Costas is a big believer in the power of facing your
challenges head on, and that boldly wearing your scars can help others triumph
over their own challenges.
An accountant by profession with a passion for writing and
blogging, Rose can help you to get back the fire that once burned within you,
starting with her eBook “31 Ways to Build Your Confidence Today.” At www.positiveattitudesforlife.com
This article first appeared at http://www.successconsciousness.com
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