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Showing posts with label mindfulness. Show all posts

Saturday, 8 December 2012

The Story of 'Gratitude Napkins'

Posted by John Lee

Ever doubted the power of gratitude and its ability to change your life for the better? Well, below is a wonderful story by international best-selling author and certified business and life coach, Linda McLean, which should convince anyone of what a great influence it can be.

Never under-estimate the power of gratitude
I received the story, quite recently, to my email inbox, as a subscriber to Bob Proctors brilliant Insight of the Day service. Im reproducing it here in full, simply because I wanted to share it with others. I hope you do too...

“Frank’s Diner was once an energized, thriving business, a favorite spot for locals and tourists alike in the scenic New England town of York Beach Maine. But when the economy hit a brick wall, Frank found it more and more difficult to hold onto his trademark, cheerful smile.

One day, Frank caught a glimpse in the mirror on the diner wall of a grumpy, scowling old man with frown lines embedded deeply in the corners of his mouth. He didn’t recognize the man as himself. Looking around his desolate diner, he knew that it wasn’t just the economy that had driven his customers away – it was his pessimistic attitude toward life. Frank had tried to remain optimistic but it seemed like the hits just kept coming, like a NorEaster pummeling the coastline. He often wondered what there was to look forward to each day.

His eyes met with a booth in the back corner of the diner where a frail elderly woman ate breakfast with a college-age girl. Mrs. Sheridan and her caregiver Michelle had been coming in for breakfast every day for a couple of years. Frank would nod and force his face into a smile when they walked in the door each day. They were his best customers after all. Mrs. Sheridan would conclude each meal by scribbling something onto a diner napkin and placing the napkin in her purse with a contented smile.

One sunny Fall day, even though the New England leaves painted a breathtaking landscape outside the diner windows, Frank was oblivious to the beauty that surrounded him. He was currently crouched under the counter, grumbling about how the dishwashers were always leaving spots on the coffee mugs. A feeble voice above interrupted his rant.

“Frank, I wonder if I could have a word with you.”

Frank nearly smashed his head on the cash register as he jumped to his feet, looking at Mrs. Sheridan in surprise. Michelle held onto the old woman tight, obviously propping her up. All Frank could do was nod agreeably.

“I wanted to talk to you about these…”

She lifted her trembling arm, pointing toward the frown lines on Frank’s face.

He opened his mouth to say something, to explain, to defend himself… but realized he had nothing to say, so Mrs. Sheridan continued.

“Young man, I learned a long time ago that life doesn’t always go your way. Believe me, I have 90 plus years of my fair share of heartbreaks and challenges that I could easily carry around with me as baggage. Instead, I choose to carry these with me.”

She reached into her purse and took out a stack of the napkins Frank had watched her scribble on every day. She had written things like: autumn leaves, Michelle’s kindness, seashells from the beach, the beautiful sunrise today, another delicious breakfast at Frank’s Diner.

“Frank I would like to challenge you to do the same; to stop carrying around your struggles and start carrying an attitude of gratitude instead.”

After Mrs. Sheridan further described his daily “homework assignment,” Frank didn’t have the heart to refuse her request.

At first he did it to appease her. As she watched from her booth each day, Frank would dutifully take a napkin from a dispenser on the counter, scribble something he was grateful for on it and put it in his pocket. The process was mechanical in the beginning, mindless instead of mindful. But each time Mrs. Sheridan smiled over at him, wordlessly encouraging him to continue.

Frank barely noticed when things began to change, when the words of gratitude he jotted down on the napkin each morning began to sink into his thick, stubborn skull. The attitude of gratitude he had inadvertently adopted through the sheer routine of it, began to truly mean something. That was when Frank’s life began to change…

A little over a month into his daily gratitude homework, Frank once again caught a glimpse of himself in the diner mirror. The reflection in the mirror was of a glowing, joyful man whom he hadn’t seen for years. This man looked forward to each new day with hope and enthusiasm.

Still smiling almost uncontrollably at the realization of how much life had changed, Frank surveyed his now bustling business. Locals, staff and tourists alike were cheerfully enjoying the revitalized space. Even though Frank hadn’t made any physical renovations, the diner somehow looked brighter to him. His eyes automatically drifted to the corner, to share in the moment with Mrs. Sheridan. But for the first time in a few days, the booth was empty. Frank’s heart sank…

A couple days later Michelle arrived and placed a box on the counter in front of Frank with a solemn smile, tears glistening in the young woman’s eyes.

“Mrs. Sheridan wanted you to have these.”

Looking at the floor so she couldn’t see his own tearful eyes, Frank simply nodded his appreciation. He felt an overwhelming wave of gratitude wash over him that such a special lady had come into his life, and exactly when he needed her most.

By time the springtime leaves were blooming, Frank’s Diner was more popular than ever in York Beach. There was one new feature in particular that was a huge customer draw. When a diner patron reached for a napkin from a dispenser, they also received a message of gratitude printed on it.

Each message was word for word from Mrs. Sheridan’s collection; along with a few from Frank’s own personal stash. Beneath the message was the question – “What are you grateful for today?” with a blank line beneath. Frank would watch from the counter as customers of all ages and from all walks of life eagerly scribbled their answers on napkins, and almost always with a smile.

Mrs. Sheridan’s unwavering attitude of gratitude, it seemed, had transformed not only his own life, but the lives of those around him as well.”

Wednesday, 4 July 2012

Watching Over Yourself

I came across this great feature by a lady called Nur Nuha the other day and it rang so true that I wanted to share it with as many people as possible.

It's about taking the time to care for ourselves - something that so many of us ngelect to do when we spend our lives looking after others, whether it be children, partners, other relatives, friends or even colleagues.


Nur suggests, quite rightly, that we make sure to take the time out to care for and nurture ourselves and our desires, and offers some excellent advice on how to do so. I hope you enjoy it as much as I did:

"When we care about someone, we watch over their well-being. We do whatever we can to care for them, to support them, and to help them whenever they are in need. We follow their life journey because we care. But do we care about ourselves enough that we watch over ourselves moment to moment?

Oftentimes we have a wish list in our mind: what we want to do, what we want to have and what we want to be. We want to get rid of our bad habits, we want to stop the chaos in our life and be at peace again, we want to be in control of our own life. The list could go on and on... But do we care enough that we watch over ourselves to make sure our wishes come true?

How do we watch over ourselves?

Be mindful. Every moment is a space to live in. Every moment is an opportunity to make changes or to improve your life. Every moment is a chance to explore new things. Be there for yourself every moment of your life. Do not waste, not even a moment. Life is precious. Make the best use of every moment of your life.

Use your five senses to feel alive. Live with your heart and soul. Enjoy, cherish and make full use of what you have right now. Forget about what you don't have. It's a time wastage. Do not live with your mind, but live with your heart and soul. Let go all the noise and chatter in your mind. Let go the past memories. Let go plans and worries of the future. Let go judgments. Let go expectations. Just be there for yourself and watch over yourself through your heart and soul.

Oftentimes we miss watching over ourselves because we are too busy living in our mind. It is not easy to let go those memories, the worries, the judgments and the expectations. Our mind just can't stop thinking. So, just let it be. Let your mind think, watch over what you are thinking, through your heart and soul.

Use the 'push out' therapy, rather than the 'pull out' therapy. When you say to yourself, "I want to let go my past memories, my worries of the future, my judgments and my expectations", you are pulling out those negative thinking out of your mind. Though you want to get rid of them, you are still thinking about the negatives when you mention them in your mind.

Push out therapy, on the other hand, occupies your mind with the positives to push out the negatives. Be appreciative. Be grateful of what you have right now. Thank God for the clean water you are using, the electricity that enables you to do your activities day and night.

Thank God for your good health. Be thankful for the lessons you gain from the obstacles and hardship in life. Whatever it is, fill up your mind with only the positives one. Every time there is an attempt to think about the negative, replace it with the positive ones.

Push out therapy is more relaxing and peaceful because you fill up your mind with the positives and give no chance at all for the negatives to occupy your mind. Whereas pull out therapy is more stressful. You are trying to clear up your mind without replacing it with something beneficial. Your mind can't stay empty for long. It needs something to digest. This gives the negatives the chance to get back in.

The important thing is to be aware. Watch out what you are thinking. Let your heart and soul be your guidance. Appreciate what you are doing and being. Feel it with your heart and soul. Just live your life the best you can, moment to moment.

Life is about creating, improving and being."

Check the author's website at http://learn-wisely.com for more inspirations. Create a beautiful life, improve your relationship and be your best with the help of her e-book 'A Guide to a Blissful Life', which outlines 8 simple attributes to live by.
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