The Art Of Manifesting Our Dreams

By Dawn Gluskin

Ever wonder why some people seem to walk around with a dark cloud hovering over them and others appear to bring their own sunshine wherever they go?

While one group tends to be generally unhappy, finds things to complain about, and nothing seems to go their way, the other group can walk the exact same earth finding gratitude in everything around them, keeping up a positive outlook and easily creating the lives they want.



Entrepreneur, speaker and mom - Dawn Gluskin

In both cases, these individuals are very much creating their own destiny as the law of attraction is at work with the basic principle, 'Like attracts like'. Simply put – if you focus on positive things, you will get positive results. If you focus on negative things, you're going to attract negative results.
Don't get me wrong. You can't just say, "I want a million dollars", focus all of your attention on that desire and then voila – instant millionaire. There's more to it than that. Actual hard work, for one thing! But, there is a spiritual element to it as well. Sometimes the universe has other plans for us, or we just aren't ready to receive yet. This phenomenon is also well-documented in science with the placebo effect.

I can personally attest to the power of purposefully attracting and manifesting. I have somewhat honed this skill over the years out of pure necessity. Having multiple business and social ventures of my own as well as being a mother to a young child with another one on the way, I have been forced to adopt a very Yoda-like mindset in my daily routine – "Do or do not. There is no try".

Having many people rely on you for their livelihood and wanting to be there for them is surefire motivation to find a way to get things done. From scoring national press coverage and columnist spots for my businesses, to generating revenues in a tough economy and competitive marketplace, to just making sure my family gets a healthy dinner at night and mama bear doesn't totally burn out in the process are all major accomplishments that I have purposefully manifested over recent years.

Reflecting back on these, I have come to realize there are some basic principles involved and would like to share with the intention of helping others get a little closer to their best potential self!

Tips on Allowing the Law of Attraction to Work for You:

* Is it meant to be? Use your inner light as a guide. The musical key of your life's symphony must be in harmony with the desire you wish to manifest. In other words, there needs to be a strong connection with what you want and what you're destined for. I have had plenty of "pouty" moments in my days after working so hard for something and coming up short in the end.

But after the fact, I always came to realize that there was a reason something didn't happen exactly how or when I wanted it to. Don't let this stop you from trying, though, as you miss 100 percent of the shots you never take! You just have to trust your gut and have faith in your instincts, which will become stronger the more you become self-aware.

A meditation practice also helps bring more insight. Some good questions to ask – Is this desire in line with my life's passion and purpose? Is my intention positive and for the greater good of many and not just rooted in self-interest? If the answers are "yes" and something in your gut is telling you to go for it, then chances are you're on the right path. Just remember to hold ever-so-loosely to your desires, as too strong of an attachment will likely bring disappointment and suffering.

* Hold powerful visions. Now that you've identified your desires and they feel intuitively right –Imagine yourself as actually having achieved your dream already. In this visualization, really see and believe it. Incorporate all of the senses: How does it feel, smell, tastes and sound?

Think about all of the important aspects of your life and what they look like when this happens. What were some of details that surrounded getting there? Writing out your vision story is a very productive and powerful tool as it helps to make your dreams seem more real, brings your vision into focus in your present situation and triggers your subconscious into action.

* Identify blocks and fears... and believe! You have to really believe in yourself and your vision. It's not a matter of if you can, but when you can. Self-doubt is a form of negative thinking that will actually prevent your dreams from manifesting. Believing is receiving!

The more you resonate with your fears, the more likely you will make them come true instead of allowing your real desires to manifest. For example, if you have a fear of public speaking and focus on all the things that could possibly go wrong before your speech – don't be surprised if you fall flat on your face when you get on stage for your big moment. Literally!

To avoid this, try noticing any internal resistance or self-doubt that comes up when you think about your desire and realize that both fears and desires exist only in the mind. It is best to identify any fears or roadblocks as soon as possible so you can accept them and move forward despite them. If the little voice of self-doubt in your mind is too loud to allow you to move forward or you are not sure what is holding you back, consider working with a business or life coach to help you work through it.

* You've got to work! You've set a positive intention; now focus your energy on its manifestation for the highest good. It's not magic, though. If you want it bad enough, you'll need to roll up your sleeves and put in the time and effort to make it happen. The more systematic you are in the execution stage, the better results you will see.

Start setting goals and creating new daily habits to help inch you towards making your vision story a reality. Have an accountability system in place whether to yourself, friends and family, or to a coach. Remember to celebrate all of your small successes along the way. Having a vision is a great start and often referring back to it is very powerful.

However, remember, "Vision without execution is hallucination." – Thomas Edison. Work it!

* Trust and allow. Don't get tripped up in your wants and desires. Have faith and confidence that if/when it is meant to happen, that it will. Keep your eyes and mind open for clues in the universe that will tell you if you are on the right path, or if you might need to tweak your vision slightly (or vastly, even!).

Remain living in the 'now', while you ever-so-loosely and delicately hold onto your dreams and allow them to unfold as they are meant to. If you are totally focused on what you want for your future, then you are focused on manifesting more of what you don't have. Trust and allow that things will play out as they are supposed to while you gently help to guide things along.

There is perfection in everything that happens along the way. Enjoy the journey!

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The Best Way to Manage or Deal With Negative People

By Heidi E Vincent

Very few people realize how the people they associate with can positively or negatively affect their health. If you've ever been around a motivational speaker, for example, have you noticed how after listening to that person you feel as though you can conquer the world?

On the other hand, if you've had occasion to be in the company of a negative person, you might remember how tired you felt around that person. That tiredness you felt was a physical manifestation of the negative energy that person was transmitting to you.

At various stages in your life, you will meet negative people. Recognizing the behaviour of a negative person, realizing it for what it is and learning to manage or deal with negative people – at work, at home, on a committee, in your church – will help you maintain your inner peace and preserve your health.

Positive thinking - the best way to deal with negative people

Your mind and body operate very much like a computer system – Garbage In, Garbage Out (GIGO). If you eat the right foods and exercise regularly, you will look and feel good physically and mentally. If you keep company with positive individuals you are more likely to experience positive emotions and have a positive outlook on life.

This does not mean that you will not have challenges and disappointments. What it does mean is that you will handle or confront those challenges and disappointments in a positive manner that will allow you to make good of the challenge or disappointment.

Avoid negative people like the plague! They sap all your energy and steal your joy. Nothing is ever good for a negative person and there is always something wrong with something or someone. If you bring a negative person to a lovely place with breath-taking scenery, they're likely to say "Oh the view is OK, but it took so long to get here", or "I was expecting it to be more scenic".

If you take them to the best restaurant with the most delicious foods, they'll complain that the food could have been served hotter or how they could have made 'XYZ' dish much better or what 'ABC' dish was missing.

If you take them to an award-winning movie, with an excellent plot and the best actors, they'll complain that the cinema was too cold or that 'X' actor had on too much make-up or looked too fat.

If you take them to see Olympic figure skating, with the world's best ice skaters and world-class ice dancing performances, they'll complain that the colour of the female skater's outfit wasn't right or the couple skating didn't look good together.

Well you get the picture! Something can't just be good, full stop, for negative people. They always could do it better or find some minute, infinitesimal problem or flaw.

Believe me! There is nothing you can do to change a negative person. Just safeguard yourself, your emotions and your health. Stay away! Keep them at arm's length!

Now sometimes despite your best efforts, you cannot avoid them because they work or live with you. So what do you do if you're living or working with a negative person or negative people? Here is some useful advice.

1. Reduce the amount of time spent in that person's company.
Restrict the time spent with that person to only what is absolutely necessary to complete the project at work or complete the meal at the dining table. Do not spend any more time than is absolutely necessary in their company. You need to be military about it.

2. Politely excuse yourself from their company.
Go find some task to do where you will be out of their reach or retire to the privacy of your room or office or some other space where you will be undisturbed.

3. Change the conversation topic.
You should have learned by now the conversation topics that trigger negativity with this person. Stay clear of those topics when you are in the company of this negative person. Whenever they try to bring up that topic which leads to negativity, quickly change the subject.

When you change the subject, though, avoid deep or controversial topics. Stick to light topics and keep changing the subject so they don't have time to dwell on any one topic and dig out reasons to be negative.

4. Avoid getting into an argument at all costs.
An argument is always icing on the cake for a negative person because then they've succeeded in ruining your mood. If they throw a comment your way that makes you 'see red'. Stop.

Smile to yourself and do not respond. Often that comment was deliberately meant to rile you up. So do not give them the satisfaction of evoking the response they wanted – your anger and an argument.

5. Tune them out mentally.
Do not give the negative person control over your mental space. You may not have control over what they say or do but you do have control over your own mind and what you do. Tune them out in your mind by thinking about something or somewhere pleasant in order to counter their negative energy.

This is by far the most powerful tool to deal with a negative person, especially when you are in a situation where you cannot change the subject or get away – like a meeting with your boss.

In conclusion, I will remind you of the wise words of Hippocrates, the ancient Greek physician: "Men ought to know that from nothing else but the brain come joys, delights, laughter and sports, and sorrows, griefs, despondency and lamentations."

A negative person is an unhappy person. So guard your mind and by extension your health against negative people, whether at work or at home.

"Your career and life will change for the better when you learn to surround yourself with positive people and keep the negative ones away." – author unknown.

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