ARE you stuck living someone else's ideas of what your life should be about?
Are you going to school for something your parents pushed on you?
Are you doing things just because you think your spouse expects you to?
Many times in Life Coaching sessions with my clients, it will be come painfully clear that one of the biggest problems they are having is that they are living a life someone else has designed for them.
Why on earth would someone live a life someone else wants for them?
Usually, the main reason, is their parents. When we're growing up we must do whatever it is that our parents insist we do. We really don't have any choice in that matter.
The problem is that most parents think they know what's best for their child well beyond their childhood.
Many parents expect their children to pursue certain educational goals. I've heard of many parents who will pay for their child's college, but ONLY if they major in exactly what the parent decides they are to major in.
Other parents use disappointment and guilt to persuade their adult child to live a life the parent feels is best.
Parents aren't the only ones inflicting their ideas on my clients, however.
I have some clients who are working jobs they absolutely hate because their spouse would never, ever understand them quitting for a different job they'd like better.
Sometimes my client will be living a life they only "think" other people want them to live.
These other people didn't ever come out and force a path on them, but my client feels as if they have and then walks a path they don't want to... to try to please someone who doesn't even care.
Are you doing this? Are you allowing others to decide what life you are living?
This is a mistake. It's always a mistake.
Even if you are about to head to college, and you find out from your parents that the ONLY way they will pay for your college education is if you major in Business, but you want to major in Art...
I don't recommend caving in and taking the free education in a topic in which you have no interest.
There are many ways to find the money for a higher education... in a topic you actually want to pursue.
Stop selling yourself short. Stop living a life others think is best for you.
Until you decide what you really want from your life and start living accordingly you are going to have a hard time finding peace and happiness.
Take the time to decide what it is that YOU want from your own life. Stop worrying about what others will think of your decisions.
You are not here to please them, you are here to be the best 'You' you can be. You are here to figure out your own happiness, your own paths.
Remember, when you are a happy individual, it will positively effect every relationship you are in. Put your efforts into living the life YOU want for yourself from now on.
Kerry A Flinders is the founder of Kerry Flinders Hypnosis & Life Coaching. Kerry is dedicated to helping others achieve their goals and move forward in life, easily.
At www.kerryflindershypnosis.com you can find Life Coaching Programs for every budget, as well as hundreds of Hypnosis Downloads to help you make changes easily.
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