Settling For Less Than You Know You Deserve - Reasons Not To Settle For Less

Guest post by Suzie Doscher

ONE of the main motivators not to settle for less surely must be that life is simply too short. Time seems to be flying by faster and faster - all the more reason to make sure you are enjoying the life that you not only wish for, but also the life that offers you a sense of fulfilment. Settling for less is something that everybody does along the way at some point or another.

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The situations in which you did settle for less can offer you an opportunity to learn, to find out what you want - from having experienced what you do not want! Settling for less means having chosen to limit yourself and your potential, and in a way wastes some precious time. However, if you learn from this, your time was not wasted because now you can think about what to do differently next time you are faced with such a choice.

Wrong Job?

Say you accepted a job offer mainly based on financial fears but you knew, in no uncertain terms, you were compromising yourself. You had enough security to ride it out a bit longer but not the courage to hold out for 'the right' one. It, no doubt, is a tall order to let a job offer go when you feel another one is not in sight. Fears have a lot of power over our decisions. If, on some deeper level, you knew this job was not really the right one, you are choosing to live with the feeling of having undervalued yourself. Long term, your heart and soul will let you know they do not appreciate the compromise!

Spiritually Thinking

To quote one of my favorite 'teachers', Caroline Myss: "Spiritually thinking; everything happens for a reason. We are able to learn from everything that happens to us. Both positive and negative occurrences are here to teach us something. If our path is to be true to ourselves and we live 'our' life, based on our values and our truths then everything that happens is happening to eventually lead us to our true life. There are no coincidences, again positive or negative. We can learn something from every thing."

Everybody knows the feeling of settling for less, at one time or another most people have been in jobs, just for the money offering no satisfaction, spending time with people they do not enjoy, going places they are not interested in, living through experiences of relationships that let them down, having friends that take advantage of them etc.

Staying in the Rut

Sometimes it is just easier to stay in a rut than find the courage to change something. It can be easier to settle than step out of your comfort zone. Settling in relationships that do not make you happy can often be the result of not wanting to be alone, or any other type of fear that keeps you stuck.

If you suffer low self esteem, taking a look and finding ways to increase it - be this with self help literature, a therapist or a coach - will lead you to better decision-making; decisions based on what you want, not what your more insecure self wants!

We most certainly do not have control over all the events in our life but we do have choices, even when it feels like we do not. Sometimes, buying yourself some time is the best decision, based on the choice to say "No" in that moment, the other choice being saying "Yes".

Reasons not to compromise yourself

Settling for less, knowing that you are making a comprise makes life difficult. Difficult, because being in the wrong job, wrong relationship, and wrong anything does not make for a 'flowing' day-to-day life. Believe it or not, consciously or unconsciously, this leads you to self-sabotaging your own choice.

When something is right for you and either keeps you, or puts you on your path for a fulfilled life, synchronicity sets in, good things appear out of nowhere. When not, obstacles surface. These obstacles are opportunities to learn.

Follow the path of successful people who have, or found the courage to take risks (emotional or otherwise), value themselves enough to stay on the path to their ultimate goal, which surely must be a fulfilling life, which of course includes financial security, giving back and living within a code of ethics.

"It is better to want what you do not have, than to have what you do not want."

Suzie Doscher Life Coach for Personal Development. I understand Personal Development to be a clearing out the old to make way for something new. This could mean letting go of things, people, behavior, or draining emotions that simply no longer support the way you wish life to be.

Maybe it worked in the past, but now it is time to move on... For more information contact me via http://suziedoscher.com, or http://coachgroupofch.ch to schedule your Complimentary Introduction to Coaching Call.

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